The Foundation Of Friendship

“A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.” 

Every time I turn around I see someone getting married;  I turn around again and I see a divorce.  People are in such a rush to have someone to fall in love that they forget to build a strong foundation.  That foundation shouldn't be partying, money, security or sex:  the foundation of a relationship is a strong friendship.

"We come to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." - Unknown

When a relationship first begins, the label boyfriend/girlfriend is given and too often the word "friend" is forgotten.  When you take those vows, you take on the label of husband and wife/husband and husband/wife and wife (Don't want to leave anyone out) and the word friend is gone but it shouldn't be forgotten.  A true marriage should consists of two people that are best friends. 

“A successful marriage is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day.” - Andre Maurois

A couple should be able to just have fun by being in each other's presence.  If you can lounge around with that person all day and still have the time of your life, you know that's something special.  When you think about that person and you can't help but to smile.  Although he/she may not be "perfect", they should be perfect of you.

“If you live to be 100, I hope I live to be 100 minus 1 day, so I never have to live without you.” - Winnie the Pooh

A marriage should be thought of as something that's going to last forever.  Before you say "I do.", you should be 171% sure that you want to be with that person for the rest of your life.  Don't rush into a marriage, you have the rest of your life to find that perfect person for you.  Take time to build that friendship, that perfect foundation, because there are going to be many obstacles along the way but you have to get over them together.  Not if, but when times problems occur, don't be afraid to discuss them but an argument isn't necessary.  But most importantly, find that companion.  When you say "I do.", remember that it's forever and no matter how frustrated/annoyed/angry/upset/displeased (and whatever else you want to put there) you get with that person, you can work it out with just that small amount of effort.  

You don't need someone that's going to walk behind you or in front of you, find that person that's going to walk beside you for the rest of your life.

TRUST, COMMUNICATION, FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE

When A Man Loves A Woman - Michael Bolton

God Bless